What is a Femcel?

The term “femcel” is a blend of “female” and “celibate,” describing women who believe they cannot find romantic or sexual partners despite wanting relationships. It emerged as a female counterpart to “incel” (involuntary celibate).

Many femcels say their dating struggles come from societal beauty standards, perceived unattractiveness, or social anxiety. They often feel excluded from traditional dating experiences and relationships.

Most femcel communities exist online in forums and social media spaces where members share experiences and support each other. Unlike some incel groups that have become associated with misogyny or violence, femcel spaces typically focus more on emotional support and discussing shared challenges.

A key difference between femcel and incel communities is that femcels generally direct frustration inward rather than blaming others—many express feelings of low self-worth or social isolation rather than hostility toward men or society.

The term has gained more attention recently as discussions about modern dating challenges have increased. However, it’s important to note that many women who struggle with dating don’t identify with or use this label.

Some mental health professionals and sociologists study these communities to understand modern relationship dynamics and social isolation better. They note that feelings of unwanted singlehood or difficulties forming relationships affect people across gender lines in different ways.